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Lying and Stealing
Lying (purposefully telling an untruth) and stealing (taking what does not belong to you) are dishonest behaviors that break the rules of society. Such misbehaviors in children, adolescents, or adults, especially if they happen often, may be signs of other more significant problems. Sometimes these misbehaviors and others, like cheating, truancy*, destroying property, or hurting others, are called antisocial behaviors, or disruptive behaviors, because they break social rules.
As children are learning social rules, they are also developing the behavior controls to follow the rules. This process happens gradually and is made possible by positive coaching, support, and appropriate consequences from parents and teachers. By 8 or 9 years old, most children, as long as they live in an environment where following social rules is encouraged, do not have problems with lying, stealing, or other disruptive behaviors. Most children try to do right and feel rewarded by the praise they receive from adults and the pride they experience when social rules are followed.
Some children, adolescents, and adults break rules of conduct frequently and on purpose even though they know it is wrong. When lying, stealing, and other antisocial behaviors occur regularly, or beyond the expected age, the person may be said to have a disruptive behavior disorder, such as oppositional defiant disorder, conduct disorder, or antisocial personality disorder.
Oppositional defiant disorder is a disruptive behavior disorder that can be diagnosed in children as young as preschoolers who demonstrate hostile or aggressive behavior and who refuse to follow rules. Conduct disorder is diagnosed in older children and adolescents who have had serious problems with lying, stealing, and aggressive behavior for at least 6 months. Adults who demonstrate a pattern of dishonest, aggressive, or destructive behaviors that violate the rights of others may be diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder.
Lying and stealing can also be a result of poor self-image. Children can act out their poor image of themselves by stealing, lying, being disrespectful and disruptive to show that they are as bad as they feel. Parents can help their child improve their self-image by offering words of encouragement, giving a lot of praise, celebrating the positive and by not dwelling on the negative. If your child hears positive affirmation that they are a beautiful, fun, and loveable child then they will start to see themselves in the same light. It will take time to tear down the walls that they have built up due to years of rejection and loss. Reassure your child often that there is not anything that they can do that will make you not love them.
Parents often have to be detectives and figure out what is underlying the behaviors in order to help their child change their ways. Lying and stealing may be a temporary behavior that parents see when their child first joins their family and goes away over time. It may also be a behavior that continues after being home for several years. If these behaviors continue, parents should consider working with a counselor who has experience working with children who were adopted. Adoptive parents are also welcome to contact us to get connected with additional resources and support.
If you find out that your teen is lying or stealing, let them know immediately that you know. Remind them that this behaviour is unacceptable and give them meaningful consequences. When things are calm, have a conversation to find out why they have done this and try to help them resolve this issue.
This article really helped reiterate how important it is to discipline the behavior without it changing my behavior towards my son. I also like the idea of not giving him an opportunity to lie. 99% of the time we know that he did it. He is medicated ADHD and this is his 3rd or 4th medication. It has greatly improved focus and academic performance, however, lying and stealing are impulses that none of the meds, talk therapy, social skills courses, and CBT have helped.
I often have parents ask me about children or teenagers lying or stealing. My approach to the situation usually depends on the age of the child and what the lie is about or what the child is stealing. At times with teenagers I recommend reporting the theft to the police so parents can get the help they need.
I recently read an article by Denise Rowden, a parent coach for Empowering Parents. She takes the same approach that I recommend to parents and use with children and teenagers. I have included her comments for you to read. These suggestions are in my opinion the best approach to dealing with lying and stealing. There are a number of reasons why teenagers resort to this behavior and you want to make sure you appropriately assess this situation. This is important so you can ensure your teenager gets the assistance that they need. In my experience, teenagers who lie and steal are crying out for help especially when they are getting caught on a regular basis.
Has your child been caught stealing from you or someone else? Have you found him using your credit card for online gaming, taking money from your wallet without asking, or even taking big ticket items from your house? The anger, disappointment, and lack of trust you feel can be destructive for your relationship. Empowering Parents coach Denise Rowden has some advice.
Child and adolescent lying can result from multiple factors, including high parental expectations, fear of consequences, attention seeking, or low self-esteem. If your child frequently lies and it is getting them or others in trouble, or if the lying is accompanied by depression, lack of empathy, low self-esteem, or intentional harm to others, it may be time to seek expert help.
Similarly, finding out your child or teenager is stealing can be understandably concerning. Emotional problems, peer pressure, low self-esteem, bullying, or neglect could prompt a child to act out and steal.
Research has shown that children who lie and steal may have underlying conditions such as conduct disorder, ODD, or an emerging personality disorder. Working with a child and adolescent psychiatrist or psychologist can help your child manage their emotions and develop positive lifelong skills. In some cases, medication can also be effective in addressing underlying issues.
Lying and stealing are sometimes considered normal for children. However, these behaviours can also indicate a serious underlying issue, so parents and guardians need to be mindful of the warning signs.
First, it's important to understand the difference between typical lying and stealing and when it becomes problematic. Lying is a common behaviour in children and often starts around the age of three. For example, a child may lie to protect themselves or to avoid punishment.
Stealing is also common in children and often begins around the age of five. Children may steal to test boundaries or because they are curious about what happens when they do. These behaviours are usually considered normal and developmentally appropriate in young children. However, if lying and stealing happen often, it could indicate a more serious issue.
One of the underlying issues that can cause children to lie and steal is anxiety. Children struggling with anxiety may lie or steal to avoid difficult situations. They may also steal or lie to feel a sense of control or power over their lives. Children with anxiety may feel like they can't handle the stress and pressure of everyday life, and lying or stealing can give them a sense of relief.
Another underlying issue that can cause children to lie and steal is depression. Children with depression may steal or lie to avoid facing their feelings of sadness and hopelessness. They may also steal or lie to escape their problems or feel a sense of control. Children with depression may struggle to connect with others and find joy in life.
A third underlying issue that can cause children to lie and steal is attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Children with ADHD may lie or steal impulsively without thinking about the consequences. They may have difficulty focusing and paying attention and struggle to control their behaviour. Children with ADHD may also have difficulty with impulse control, making it harder for them to resist the urge to lie or steal.
Trauma is another underlying issue that can cause children to lie and steal. Children who have experienced trauma, such as abuse or neglect, may lie or steal to cope with their feelings of fear, sadness, and anger. They may also lie or steal to avoid facing their traumatic experiences. Children who have experienced trauma may struggle with trust and difficulty connecting with others.
Many adults will probably recall a time in their childhood when they were guilty of a little stealing. Perhaps it was just a few dollars you found lying around the house, or a tempting trinket off a shop counter.
For children who show a pattern of repeated stealing, steps must be taken to correct this behavior as soon as possible. The majority of adult criminals started their life of crime well before their teenage years.
Doctors aren't sure what causes ADHD. But they do know that kids who have it find it hard to control their impulses. And, they may often engage in risky behaviors like aggressive play, ignoring rules, running off, lying, and stealing.
This can make them feel lonely and isolated. It can also lead to other problems. A 2014 study published in the Journal of Attention Disorders found that children who have the disorder are more likely to bully others or become victims of bullying themselves. It can also affect their self-esteem. 041b061a72